Working on a Child Custody Agreement? You Need a Strategy!

We all know that the basic principle that a court will take into account when deciding on a child custody agreement will be the welfare of the children. It is, however, often the case their interests are not served by the way in which a divorce is managed and by the fact that many parents approach the issue of child custody with a solid strategy for achieving the best outcomes in place.

It is obviously much easier to sort out the best possible child custody agreement at the outset than to try and remedy past mistakes. You should therefore try to make very sure that you approach the custody situation of your kids in a calm, deliberate and proactive manner. It is so easy to go on an emotional roller coaster ride and to approach custody issues with terms like 'battle' and 'war' ringing around in your head! The thing is that even if you see things in warlike terms you still need to keep in mind that the one thing that is most important for those operating at the highest levels in the military can be summed up in one word: Strategy!

Strategy can be defined as a well thought out set of plans and/or procedures that you will follow to achieve a certain goal. It also involves the study of certain variables and likely responses to them. It is the kind of thing that needs to be approached with clear thinking and with a cool head. It should be noted that merely going in 'with all guns blazing' does, in most cases, not qualify as being a 'good strategy'!You owe it to yourself, and most of all to your kids, to have a good long think about ways in which their best interests can be served. You should also do everything that you can to familiarize yourself with the world of child custody agreements and with tactics and techniques that can form part of your overall strategy.

Most of us are perhaps not natural strategic thinkers but it is a skill that you will need to develop in order to achieve the best possible child custody agreements. I would therefore encourage you to, if you are facing child custody issues, do everything that you can to approach this difficult phase of your life in the same way that a master strategist thinks about meeting a certain objective: Research, Analyze, Weigh Alternatives, Anticipate Responses, Decide, Act!